Si pour nous, internautes en quête d’intensité visuelle, vie de bloggueuses rime avec cadeaux à gogo, avalanche de like et apparitions médiatiques, certaines « influenceuses », comme EnjoyPhoenix, ne cessent de nous prouver le contraire.
L’envers du « dé-corps » ?
L’affaire remonte au 16 septembre dernier. Dans une longue vidéo, postée sur YouTube, EnjoyPhoenix revient sur ses TCA* -troubles du comportement alimentaire-, une mise à nu cathartique, à ses yeux. C’est ainsi qu’on découvre le poids des mots, la fragilité des bloggueuses (qui ne sont pas, comme on le croit naïvement, des dames de fer !) mais surtout, la cruauté –et la lâcheté- des internautes. EnjoyPhoenix était une fille « normale ». Elle n’avait ni des problèmes avec la nourriture, ni de réelles complexes. Bien sûr et comme nous TOUS* –les garçons sont loin d’être épargnés- elle se dit que perdre trois kilos ne lui ferait pas de mal, d’autant plus que certains tweetos la bassinaient avec leurs « tu es grosse ». D’autres internautes, moins machiavéliques, tapaient « ingénument » « tu serais tellement plus jolie avec trois kilos en moins». Sauf que EnjoyPhoenix n’est pas une « mademoiselle-tout-le-monde »: elle a l’impression que sa vie et a fortiori son corps appartient aux internautes donc , pour leur plaire, elle décide de perdre du poids. Problème, quand une telle initiative d’amaigrissement se fait sans l’aide d’un ou de plusieurs spécialiste-s-, les trois kilos qu’on a voulu perdre d’emblée deviennent cinq dix voire quinze dans le cas de EnjoyPhoenix. Deuxième bémol, il est difficile de s’alimenter « normalement » après un régime drastique et ce, même si le corps réclame de la nourriture (une réaction normale après une période de « famine »). EnjoyPhoenix a pourtant continué de se priver afin d’éviter d’autres « commentaires » haineux. Toutefois, quand le corps et l’esprit n’arrivent plus à coopérer, le processus de privation alimentaire se mue en une orgie alimentaire. Bref, EnjoyPhoenix a souffert d’anorexie/boulimie comme certaines d’entre nous. Victime de sa propre image, elle a renié son corps pour refléter l’image que réclamaient ses fans.
Mais sachez que EnjoyPhoenix n’est pas un cas isolé de la bloggosphère.
Mon corps, ce héros ?
Si EnjoyPhoenix a brisé un tabou (les bloggueuses ne parlent pas ou très peu de TCA* ou de dépression), d’autres bloggueuses ont cassé l’image trop lisse de la blogosphère. On oublie souvent qu’un-e- influenceur-euse- est une personne qui se met à nu et qui, par conséquent, est sujette au regard scrutateur d’un autre digitalisé et à une parole acérée. C’est dans ce contexte que certaines bloggueuses ont décidé de clarifier quelques points : personne n’est parfait/un corps n’est pas un bien public et encore moins un bien 3.0/les photos sont souvent photoshoppées. Voici un effet de Split Screen qui contre avec humour certains tweets désobligeants
Hey you! Stop scrolling for a second and think about how social media affects you. Have you ever felt « lost » in this world of perfection? Felt like you’re not good enough, pretty enough, skinny or curvy enough? I know I have and I still do from time to time . All we see on the internet is perfect pictures, bodies, faces and lifes. Guess what? It’s not all as perfect as it seems We « influencers » get to choose what we post and we usually pick our « best » pictures. We choose to show what seems to be socially acceptable and what fits with the beauty standards of todays society. Nothing wrong with that but sadly it gives the world an unrealistic idea of life and human bodies . My body isn’t made out of stone, it doesn’t look like the bodies you see in magazines all the time. Why? Cause life isn’t a freaking magazine! I walk around, enjoy life and my body doesn’t give a fuck about beauty standards. Sadly our minds do care . It’s easy to compare yourself with insta perfection and feel bad. If I’d posted the pic on the right I’m sure I’d get comments like « goals ». However, I posted the left one a while ago and people still message me making fun of the way my body looks in it Guess what, both pics are me, the same body, same vacation, both beautiful yet one of them fits beauty standards better than the other. Silly isn’t it? ♀️ . Whoever you are, please know that you are good enough! You are beautiful and deserve the best in life! Don’t let your body or appearance hold you back in life Go live your life and amazing things will happen! ! ✨ leave a « ❤ » in the comments if you think we should love our bodies cause we’re beautiful no matter what! Wishing you a day with lots of love, laughter and happiness oh and tag a friend who needs to read this #togetherwearestronger #keepitreal #bodypositive #loveyourself
‼️First thing my mum said when I showed her these pictures: « wow, that’s a great transformation! When did you take the before picture? » Me: « this morning » So just a little reminder: It really is that simple to completely change the way your body looks in seconds!!‼️ . Although I called the right pic « posing » I want to clarify that posing is also BAD posture. Walking around like that al day isn’t good for your body at all! Back arched, hip pushed to the side & flexing so hard I’d almost shit myself . Some of you might think the left pic is and exaggeration but truth is I used to walk around like that. Yes I was a total sloucher Slouching isn’t good for your body either. The rounded shoulders, arms pushed against the body and feet so close to each other that they almost become one It just screams; I DON’T WANT TO BE HERE! DON’T LOOK AT ME! And that’s exactly why I used to stand like that . Making your body « smaller » can make it feel like no one can see you Guess what?? We can still see you! I used to be so insecure that hiding somewhere in the corner & slouching to be as little as possible seemed like the best thing to do. That way I hoped no one would notice me . For all who feel like they need to hide too: you don’t!! You are allowed to be here & to be seen! You are freaking amazing and super beautiful! Stand up straight & proud and say: HERE I AM!! Walk into the room and OWN IT! . The way you stand actually influences the way you feel! I felt proud whilst posing but slouching instantly made me feel little and shy again Next time you go somewhere and you feel insecure pay some attention to your posture! Be proud! . Posing is a great thing but please remember that even « instamodels » don’t walk around posing all day. It’s simply impossible! In real life I’m somewhere in between those two pictures! Not slouching but also not posing. Unless it’s picture time of course. Then you better get ready for me to do my super hero poses! (Where’s that Wonder Woman emoji when you need it) . Anyway, get to know your body and stand proud! YOU DESERVE TO BE SEEN! YOU ARE ENOUGH! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!❤❤ Now tag another beautiful human being! #imreswarriors
‼️IMPORTANT MESSAGE‼️My Natural shape vs photoshop But guess what, also my natural shape vs someone else’s natural shape!!! . This whole « look what photoshop can do » hype is great but we actually have to keep it real too. Yes more real than just showing our OWN natural shape vs photoshop. I posted about the subject a month ago but I’m just gonna harrass you with it again cause I find it so important . See this is MY natural shape. Nothing wrong with it but I don’t have that ⏳shape. HOWEVER, there are women who do! Just because someone’s body is different than yours doesn’t mean they had plastic surgery or it’s photoshopped . It’s sad that people are claiming that all bodies you think are « goals » are fake or photoshopped cause that’s not the truth There are women out there with hourglass figures, there are women which have completely transformed their bodies♀️ . Imagine a woman being insecure about her natural⏳ shape who keeps getting comments saying: stop photoshopping your pics, it looks ugly af. Or a woman who put years of hard work into her body getting comments it’s « fake »♀️ That hurts doesn’t it? . I’m posting this cause I want you to realise there are all kinds of bodies and they’re all equally beautiful! Yes you can lose weight or grow a booty but that doesn’t make you beautiful It just changes you, the beauty was already there! It’s okay to have physical goals but always rember that you are beautiful no matter what! The most beautiful women are happy women!✨ . It’s important to know that photoshop is present but that doesn’t mean everything is suddenly fake. Also I know you mean well but I don’t need to hear that I don’t need photoshop cause my own body looks « better » than the curvy one. They are just different body types and they’re both beautiful! So is the shape with a little « less curves » than I have! ALL BEAUTIFUL! ❤❤ . Curvy isn’t better than skinny & skinny isn’t better than curvy They’re different, that’s it! STOP COMPARING YOUR BODY TO OTHERS! I was born with this body and I’m proud of it. Now go be proud of your body!❤ Raise your hand if you think all bodies are beautiful! #imreswarriors
‼️DIFFERENT KIND OF « KEEP IT REAL »‼️ I know some people are all done with the « keep it real » pictures so I thought I’d try a new one I find this one kinda hilariouschilling by the pool instagram vs real life . Anyone familiar with the concept of having all « normal » legs when you’re standing but as soon as you sit down they transform into huge piles of meat? Why is it that those 2 sticks we use to walk expand to the size of Texas whenever they touch a chair? . This is the most NORMAL thing ever yet us girls seem to be so self conscious about it Hello! Your legs are being pushed against a surface, they are supposed to expand! This doesn’t mean you’re fat Even muscle will just look like a huge shapeless pile of meat when there’s no flexing involved If you don’t want your legs to expand maybe invest in stone legs!⛰⛏ I’d choose marble ones . We’ve just lost touch with reality because on the internet all we see are those freaking hot dog legs I am guilty of posting those too! Yet even I wondered on my last vacay why my legs were so « big » when I sat down. . Thought I’d take a good comparison pic and I’m pretty sure I’ve got a hernia now Creating that thighgap & skinny legs feel was real hard I had to arch my back like crazy, hold my legs up (serious ab work was involved) and had to sit on the edge of the pool which caused me to almost fall. Both my camera & I would have drowned in the sadness of insta perfection (I would survive the water though, I can swim!) To people who do sit like this in real life; I admire your core strenght & willpower! . Yep, that’s the truth behind poolside hotdog pics. Truth be told I’d much rather sit like that right pic whilst enjoying an actual hotdog What is your fave poolside snack? Kinda wanted to hold a piece of watermelon whilst taking this but it turns out that’s only for advanced instagram posing I couldn’t hold myself up, flex them abs, hold a watermelon & take pics at the same time Guess I better start practicing for my next vacay! . Ps. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the way my legs look in the pic on the right. Just showing you the difference! vs = both yummy
What’s more important to you, looking good or feeling good? The majority of us, boys & gals, have been through periods where all we want to do is look good but it takes over & we lose the want to feel good There’s a huge difference between choosing when you want to workout & being so obsessed you don’t even have the choice. Back in the left photo I had lost my sense of control & working out/counting every calorie took over my life. I was addicted to not just looking the leanest I could but I was obsessed with the gym, I spent way too much time there & it took priority over things it shouldn’t of. The right photo was taken last week, after not stepping foot in a gym for 16 days (because of a kidney infection). I’m now at a shape that’s healthier for me. Not only has my body changed but my mindset has shifted so so much, even after one day off/a rest day I was so desperate to go back to training it felt like an unhealthy addiction. Now, I walk out of the gym feeling fulfilled, strong & energised compared to the exhausted & sore me on the left. I am so glad I did a bikini competition because it really did educate me & I learnt so much about my body but I would choose happiness over 11% body fat ANYDAY So, next time you’re working out, think to yourself, am I doing this just to look good or to feel good too?
We’ve all seen plenty of these photos but they help me to show you you’re NOT alone Bloating is yuuuuuuuk. On the left I was the most inflamed I’ve been in a while & it was super duper uncomfortable. It built up through the day & then something triggered it in the evening that made it even worse. I had a long bath with my new bloating-best-buddy-BOD @bodyondemand & it eased off. The magnesium salts not only smell amazing they really help to soothe the bloat & your skin just sucks it all up You can see on the right it’s not died down completely BUT it is so much calmer than the left. I love a little bit of yoga when I’m all puffy, especially twists & downward dog to stretch it all out. Girls, this might just be your new life saver Plus the rose gold packaging is BEAAAAAUT (see on ma story)
Put your hand up if your thighs touch when you sit down Keep your hand up if you’ve ever looked at those goddesses on Instagram & wondered why theirs don’t No matter how much ‘body confidence’ I share with you on here, I still really struggle with my legs when I’m sat down. When I’m in a bikini or shorts I look down & I immediately want to cover them up. They spread out like marshmallows & not even tasty-I-want-to-eat-you marshmallows. BUT unlike a year ago, I now snap out of it & remind myself what my legs do for me. They walk me everywhere, they make me jump AND they carry my torso my arms, my head & all 6 foot of me errryday. So next time you look down at your legs & they’re touching, getting cosy with each other & making friends… just have a little think what they do for you & send a little bitta love down there. There’s so much more to life! The blue pool, blue skies & tanned toned legs holiday photos are what you think people want to see but actually, I would much rather show you rainy season grey skies & how my thighs reaaaally look when I’m horizontal I think the derogatory names out there for ‘bigger legs’ like Thunder Thighs, Tree Trunks are a big reason for the leg hate. So… to all ma girls who have ever felt too conscious to wear short shorts, lets hold hands & scream from the roof tops ALLLL HAIL THICK THIGHS THAT TOUCH, modern day society will NOT tell us what size they ‘should’ be
Bref, il n’y a pas qu’un corps mais des corps et ils tous parfaits, à leurs manières.